Where has Happiness gone?

Where has Happiness gone?


I wouldn’t be far from the truth if I were to say that THE one thing everyone is searching for in life is happiness. We may call it by different names at different times but essentially it always boils down to the same thing. Even if you don’t know what you are searching for in life, chances are, it is happiness. 

Where we might differ however, is in our definition of it. For one person happiness may be green, for another red, for a third one golden, and for the fourth blue. Even if you choose a rainbow, you will still be searching for the same thing everyone else does.

A quick question here. Have you found it yet?

If the answer is Yes, you can stop reading here. If your answer is No, you may find it helpful to continue reading.

Have you ever got something amazing, became someone important or met your dream person, only to realise that it didn’t make you feel the way you thought it would? Then you say to yourself “…this is not it, it must be something/someone else”. So you continue searching for that “something/someone else” without realising that you might not be searching in the right place. 

I am saying “in the right place” because precisely here lies the reason for the unhappiness in the world.

Most of us search for happiness in all the wrong places. We have been told to search for it in objects, in people, in jobs and in all sorts of situations. But rarely do we realise that what we are searching for could never be found there. Sure, we get moments of satisfaction or temporary excitement but that’s not the same as happiness, is it?

Have you considered that what you are searching for is a feeling? It is kind of obvious but then it is also not so obvious.

If you accept this idea, then it is observable to everyone that feelings are not outside of us, they are inside. Therefore, feelings can never be the result of something external (although we are led to believe that and we have become masters in using the Projection defence mechanism).

We are also led to believe that happiness is created. Personally, I cannot believe in that premise anymore. The evidence of all that I have read and of all the work I have done with clients shows that Happiness has always been there, in us, waiting to be discovered. It has always been the case of “removing the clouds so that we can see the sun shining”.

And the sun is always shining, you know that for yourself, don’t you?

It then follows, the right place to start searching for and discovering happiness is nowhere else but in ourselves.

Would you like to know how to search for it in yourself?

One way to do it is by observation. Observe yourself daily! Observe what you think, how you feel, what you say, what you do. Observe who you are being while you are doing what you are doing. Do it without any judgement. Just observe! Make yourself the most interesting topic in your life.

You may be surprised by what you discover.